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More and more I keep hearing from friends & acquaintances (whose daughters are planning their weddings) about the brides’ desires to be a “princess” on “her special day”….

I am staring to wonder, when our view of a princess became so skewed?

Every “real” princess that has gotten married in, let’s say, the past ten years has not worn a dress dripping in crystals/diamonds or other glitzy glittering stones, but rather simple elegant dresses befitting the occasion.

Rarely have I seen “real” princesses behave as badly as some of their less blue-blooded counterparts, starting with everything from throwing tantrums, insulting their bridal party (ie people that should be near and dear to them) and placing completely unreasonable demands and expectations of everyone around them.

As far as I am concerned, you are a princess when you handle yourself with grace, be kind and considerate and make sure others are taken care of. (If you have to tell everyone within earshot how much “class” you have, then chances are you have absolutely none).

Princess Elizabeth (now Queen Elizabeth II) gave a speech at age 25 promising her people a life of service; and she has certainly fulfilled that promise. We as outsiders, see the comfortable surroundings most royals live in, and totally discount the hard work, total loss of privacy, lack of personal choices they may make and other severe constraints on their lives.

A wedding is a day of celebration, where two families get to know each other because they face the reality of being linked forever thereafter. It’s a first step into a new life for the couple and a time of transition for two families. It appears silly to me to have the added stress of trying to make everything conform to one person’s idea of what a perfect function should be.

And quite frankly, the little glitches that happen along the way, are what make that wedding unique and different….little mishaps that one can laugh about, maybe not the next day or week, but a few months down the line!